When you say lobby I assume you are talking about in game lobbies where you can select missions and stuff. Well here is what I think, yes the behaviour is allowed but it isn't tolerated or respected here on Ultima, ie you can swear but you have to draw the line somewhere and watch what you are saying, not everyone who plays on Ultima is an adult so.... but yeah he is allowed to say that to you, I mean anyone can say anything to anyone but there are repurcusions to it, though he could've said can you please leave or something along those lines. But saying what he did then immediatley leaving just seems suspicious to me, but that's just me u.u