just get good, thats it. It takes time and patience with this game. Join rooms and CCA/TTF grind...get strong and at the same time practice. It's i assume your first charactor so don't worry about it being tough, it is for most. Once she gets stronger, and your skill better, you will start getting some good drops for gear, and your second charactor will be a beast then.
I haven't been on in like 2 months now myself, been getting a itch to get back on, i could either hop on my ramarl or fo and power level you, giving you pointers, or hop on my 100 hucast and level up with you tonight, lmk.